A new visual take on my most popular post about gay marriage…
From Huffington Post:
Less than a week before the Supreme Court hears arguments on both the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) and Proposition 8 cases, a new Washington Post-ABC News poll shows a record 58 percent of Americans supporting marriage equality, up five points from last year when barely a majority were supportive. Most ominous for the GOP is that among 18 to 29 year-olds, a whopping 81 percent support marriage equality.
Fifty-eight percent support is amazing, especially when you consider President Obama didn’t even receive that percentage of the vote in the 2012 election. The numbers among the younger group aren’t really surprising to me. It’s the old, bigoted people in this country (here’s looking at you, Scalia) who are holding us back. At least we can count on them aging out of the system.
Yesterday, in the presence of a lawyer and three witnesses, Honey and I signed our lives over to one another. Literally.
Not only did we sign Last Will & Testaments leaving all of our property to one another in the event of our death, we also signed documents granting each other financial and medical power of attorney. Lastly, we completed Living Wills which detail our wishes about end-of-life medical decisions – ultimately leaving final decisions about treatment to one another. So, at least from a legal standpoint, we placed our lives and our property in each others hands.
All of the paperwork and signatures even made it seem like we finally achieved some legal recognition of our relationship. I figure this is about as close to married as a couple can get without actually receiving a marriage certificate and having a ceremony.
The amazing part is that after almost eight years together, it feels like our relationship just achieved a new level of commitment. I hope this is just the first step of many on our journey toward full legal recognition of our union.
Poet Walt Whitman, who is widely thought to have been homosexual, wrote this poem in the 1800′s. Could it be more appropriate for our current struggle for marriage equality?
I Hear It Was Charged Against Me
by Walt Whitman
I hear it was charged against me that I sought to destroy institutions,
But really I am neither for nor against institutions,
(What indeed have I in common with them? or what with the destruction of them?)
Only I will establish in the Mannahatta and in every city of these States inland and seaboard,
And in the fields and woods, and above every keel little or large that dents the water,
Without edifices or rules or trustees or any argument,
The institution of the dear love of comrades.
An important milestone in the fight for marriage equality was achieved today when a federal appeals court in Manhattan declared the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) to be unconstitutional. The conservative judge who authored the ruling went one step farther by stating any law that discriminates against gays and lesbians should be viewed with skepticism.
This is a really big deal. Jacobs is not simply saying that DOMA imposes unique and unconstitutional burdens on gay couples, he is saying that any attempt by government to discriminate against gay people must have an “exceedingly persuasive” justification. This is the same very skeptical standard afforded to laws that discriminate against women. If Jacobs’ reasoning is adopted by the Supreme Court, it will be a sweeping victory for gay rights, likely causing state discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation to be virtually eliminated. And the fact that this decision came from such a conservative judge makes it all the more likely that DOMA will ultimately be struck down by the Supreme Court.
The thing that bothers me the most about the possibility of Romney winning is that social conservatives are sure to point out that the first president in our history to publicly support same-sex marriage lost the election – even though it will probably have little or nothing to do with it, since this election is apparently more about style than substance.
It seems in the LGBT community that we must continually take one step forward and two steps backward. It’s disheartening, especially when the years of our lives seem to slip away much faster than the progression of our cause. I remember telling Honey when we met that we would probably have the federal right to same-sex marriage within five years. That was almost 8 years ago.
I think that gay marriage is going to happen. It must. We are not actually equal if we are not allowed to freely love one another. What the Pope thinks of being gay does not matter to the world. It matters to the people who like the Pope and follow the Pope. It is not a reflection of all religious people.
- Lady Gaga
The Pope implied recently that gay people aren’t fully developed human beings.