Happiness

“Are you happy?”

The question from my father startled me a bit and I wasn’t exactly sure how to answer. I explained that I am relatively happy even though there are some things in my life that I wish were a little different. But, yeah, overall I’m happy.

Since I started working for my dad a few weeks ago, he’s been running around acting like a kid with a new toy. He frequently remarks about how happy he is and how much he likes where he’s at in his life right now. His joy is almost contagious.

Life has dealt me many unexpected blows, but things always seem to work out just fine in the end. Three years ago, I would have never believed it if someone had suggested that I was going to find such a wonderful person to share my life with. One month ago, I’d never have believed someone telling me that I’d soon be starting a new job. Life has a wonderful way of surprising (or scaring) the heck out of us.

Dad later remarked that it was ironic that we are both happy in our lives when most of the religious people that we know think that we will split hell wide open when we die. ”I don’t believe that,” I replied.

He paused briefly before saying, “I don’t either.”

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ohchicken
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i love your dad.
this is a great post, brian.

FreeFromItAll
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So glad you are happy.

I am for the first time in YEARS myself. Takes a lot of pain, struggle and damn hard work to get there, but it’s so worth it.

irishsof
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I think it’s wonderful that neither of you believe that. I’ve never understood the conviction among so many religious people that everyone is going to hell and everything is miserable, etc, etc. Shouldn’t God be a source of joy in one’s life?

Karen
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There are several books out right now challenging Americans to find value in those times when we AREN’T happy. I thought that’s where your post might be headed.

Happiness means something because we honor those occasions/seasons in our lives when we are sad or confused or…fill in the blank.

Continue to pay attention to (and write about) your journey, Brian! You give the rest of us courage to respect where we are in our lives.

Oh yeah…about hell breaking wide open. I think God’s even happier about where you and your father are than the two of you put together.

Caroline
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I like your most recent blog look! I usually read you from my aggregator, so this may not be “new” and if not, then I apologize.

Anyway…loved this post and glad to hear things are going so well for you. Hope the streak continues. :)

Brian
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@ ohchicken: He’s easy to love. Thanks!

@ FreeFromItAll: I’m glad you’re happy!

@ irishof: I think so, but it’s taken me a long time to get to this point. I have lots of religious baggage, so to speak.

@ Karen: Finding value in sadness is a difficult concept, but a good one.

It does seem like my heavenly father would love me and be just as proud of me as my earthly father, huh?

@ Caroline: It is a new look and it just debuted last night. Glad you like it and thanks for the well wishes!

moonbeammcqueen
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Brian, for some reason your blog fell off of my blogsurfer list. I’m glad to see that you’re still here, and still posting.

I had no idea you’d gone to work for your dad! How wonderful that you’re around someone so kind and happy. I think any of us who read his letter that you posted here know what a good guy he is, and how much he cares about you. Isn’t it nice to be working for someone who not only asks you if you’re happy, but cares about the answer?? :)

FreeFromItAll
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Karen said: Happiness means something because we honor those occasions/seasons in our lives when we are sad or confused or…fill in the blank.

That statement just made me tear up….it’s a very profound and deep statement when one has experienced “honoring it”. I would have never known the joy I am experiencing now without the …. (fill in the blank). The key is to find a way out of the (fill in the blank) and come out on the side victorious. Not always easy, but always necessary to heal.

Thank you Karen, for reminding me of that.
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Thank Bri, I’m happy that I’m happy too. What a long journey.

Alyson
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Great post.

It really is amazing how things change so quickly, but they always work out for the best.

There was a guy in my driving class that looked so much like your dad it was scary. Really. His name’s Kyle, but I kept wanting to call him Brian. (When I wrote down our lunch order one day, I actually wrote Brian on his order.)

Jamie
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Good for you Brian. What a cool Dad you seem to have.

fightingwindmills
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Hey Brian, what a great post. :) And happy 600th post milestone, too! I agree with Karen that your journey gives many readers courage and your thoughtful posts give us reason to respect you and ourselves.

Brian
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@ MBMQ: Glad my blog is back on your list. I have been working with my father for a few weeks now and things are going very well.

@ FreeFromItAll: She has a way with words, doesn’t she?

@ Alyson: At least you didn’t write “Brain.” They used to do that to me all the time on lunch orders.

@ Jamie: Thank you. He really is.

@ fightingwindmills: I’m also getting ready to celebrate 100,000 views – something that really blows my mind. Thanks for your kind words!

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